1. Clean Up Your Act – Regardless of how tidy a woman may or
may not be, she’s delighted when a man keeps his home, car, clothes and
body squeaky clean and smelling good. Special attention is required for
the refrigerator, sink, and especially the bathroom. She’ll notice.
Keeping clean is a positive way to live and it will help guys score a
check plus on the first date and beyond. It may also up his chances at
her wanting to see if his sheets are clean, also. Once into a
relationship, guys need to set the bar high. That means cleaning up
around the house, taking out the garbage and vacuuming etc. It’s got to
be done anyway and she’ll notice.
2. Be Proactive – If a woman has to keep drilling a guy about
doing every little thing that’s expected, he’ll remain in her doghouse.
It’s critical for men to take care of things on their own without having
to be asked a million times. No one wants to be a nag, but she’ll seem
like one if he doesn’t think ahead. Want to avoid “the talk”? Anticipate
a woman’s needs and address them. Surprise her with flowers,
reservations at a restaurant she’s mentioned, cook her a tasty meal,
order tickets for that play she wanted to see, etc. It all comes down
to…
3. Paying Attention – Yep, I’ve said it again, and I still
mess up. Guys have to stop thinking about themselves 24/7 and show more
consideration for the one who keeps them happy. When they don’t, things
get tricky and guys hear about it at the most inopportune times. I got
an earful the other night right after settling in for the second half of
the Cowboys-Giants football game. She made a lot of great points, but
maybe she should have been paying attention also. After all, she knows
I’m a big Cowboys fan. But, her points were on target, so I maintained
eye contact throughout the ‘discussion’, actively listened and took her
suggestions to heart.
4. Tell Her How You Feel – When something’s wrong with a
relationship guys often choose one of two courses of action. They do
something about it or they leave. I’m not suggesting men are well
adjusted in this area, but it’s usually how we roll. We’re not very good
at addressing relationship issues. We try to fix things instead of
discussing what’s wrong, the way women do. Men can work wonders if they
listen with an open mind and express how they feel at the appropriate
time. That’s not too much to ask.
5. Sex – I’m not going into details, but women reward men who
are creative, romantic and aim to please their partner. It’s that
simple. There are lots more ways for men to keep their relationships on
course, but mostly it comes down to mutual love and respect. Men and
women want the same things. They just have different ways of expressing
themselves. But, that’s a good thing, isn’t it? It would be a drag if
everyone were the same.
